Sure, you might be feeling it and you really want to say it, but make sure it’s the right time. Don’t rush it and don’t say “I love you” because you feel like it’s the next logical step. My personal rule is, don’t say it within the first few months of dating. Every relationship is different and you’ll know when or if it’s the right time to drop the L-bomb on your significant other.
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You’re desperate to be in a relationship — so desperate that you’ll settle for less than you deserve.
Dear Show and Tell,
Just tell him! If you think he likes you, then let him know how you feel. Be bold. Be confident. If he’s not into you, then he’ll let you know and you can move on. If he is, then voila, you’re on the train to romancetown.
-Alli
I typically only answer questions once a week because I’ve been busy the past few months. I’m trying to answer them faster when I have the time, but normally I can only do it once or twice a week :) Be patient!
Dear Friend or Friendlier,
It depends if he’s a nice guy. I’ve had plenty of guy friends go out of their way to do things for me and they never had interest in dating me. He could like you, but you’d have to look at more clues than just that. Does he initiate conversation? Does he try and make plans? Stuff like that. Don’t break down every little thing he does because sometimes, that doesn’t give away anything.
-Alli
Dear Working on Love,
It could be or it could be a sign that he’s just a flirt. Try making plans with him outside of work to see what the deal is. It’s always fun to flirt with people you work with (although it’s not the best idea) so I’d be weary of his intentions until you hang out when you’re off work.
-Alli
When you’re dating someone, you need to get to know them. Just because you have great physical chemistry doesn’t mean you and the person you’re interested in will get along when you’re not hooking up. If you can spend time together without being all over each other, and enjoy it, that’s how you know you can have a solid relationship. People always talk up the physical side of relationships and now if the first kiss is bad, then they don’t even try for a relationship. Kissing and sex can be improved over time, but a genuine connection is something to hold on to.
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Dear Confused,
It sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants right now. I’d give him time to sort out his feelings without talking to you. If he wants to be with you but does need some more time, then he will be with you. If he wants to be with his ex, then he’ll go back to her. I’d keep my distance from him for a while and ask him to not talk to you until he knows what he wants.
-Alli
It is but I never got an email. Resend it and I’ll keep an eye out for it!
Thank you for reading :)
Dear Short Stacks,
If she doesn’t like you talking to one of your friends just because she likes him, then she can get over it. Talk to her about how you’re perceiving her actions and how it’s making you feel. She needs to get over this jealousy issue, otherwise she’ll never have a healthy relationship. Don’t give up your friendship with either one of these people, though, because that’s not fair to you.
-Alli
