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Anonymous asked: There's a guy that I used to be friends with, but he had a crush on me and when I rejected him, he got angry and after that we only talked out of necessity. That was about a year ago. Now he seems to be warming up to me. We still only talk out of necessity, but now he doesn't have the clipped tone he used to have when we needed to talk. We'll both be leaving for different colleges soon. I don't know if I should attempt to smooth it over or just leave it.
Dear Rejector,
I would just leave it. Obviously the friendship wasn’t that important, otherwise you guys would’ve tried to patch things up sooner. You both will forget all about it when you go away to college anyway.
-Alli
Anonymous asked: My situation is that a guy friend has had a crush on me for years, we used to hook up at parties years ago, never dated. I was having a hard time last year and drove out to see him for a weekend. I met his good friend, and instantly fell for him. I kept my mouth shut for several months, then he revealed he felt the same. For 2 months we've been inseparable and it's getting serious. Never felt this way before. The guy friend doesn't know, and we haven't told him because he still likes me. Input?
Dear Always the Best Friend,
Just tell him. The longer you wait, the more you’ll hurt him in the end. It’s better to let him know now so that he doesn’t find out from someone else. It’s best to make it quick, don’t try to reason with him about your feelings because you can’t help those.
-Alli
Anonymous asked: What do you do when your ex-fwb that you've always in love with (who has a girlfriend now) tells you that he loves you? I have a hard time believing it was a sincere statement because we have a physical background, but then again I can't think of a reason why he would use those particular words to describe how he feels, if there wasn't at least some truth to it. help? :/
Dear FWB- Friends with Boundaries,
He’s in a relationship. Whether you guys used to bang or not, it doesn’t change the fact that he’s taken. If he loved you then you would be dating him right now, not her. I’d steer clear of him, he sounds extremely sketchy.
-Alli
Anonymous asked: okay, so this boy Ive been friends with for a long time told me he likes me and he asked me out and i don't know what to to i know if i say yes I'm going to get teased because he isn't the cutest guy. hes really sweet and i kinda like him but its very little its like .2% out of 100% what should i do? i neeeed answers please!
Dear Kinda Sorta,
If you don’t honestly like him, then don’t go out with him. That’s rude. It’s better to be upfront with how you feel then lead him on and hurt him later. If you’re just scared of getting teased then get over it. If you’re that worried about what others think of you then you should really do some reflecting on who you are before you date anyone.
-Alli
Anonymous asked: How to get over a guy that I broke it off with because he wasn't helping it go anywhere?
Dear Breaker,
Time. For anyone who’s dealing with getting over someone it just takes time. There’s not a set way to getting over someone other than that. Sure, delete them from your phone, don’t cyberstalk them, etc. But the only thing you can do is fill your time with other things, such as reading or working out, and in time you’ll move on.
-Alli
Anonymous asked: 1. How do you lead into a conversation to tell a friend you like them? What would you say? 2. When is a good time to have a conversation like this?
Dear Spin It,
This is tricky since you’re having a conversation with a friend that could potentially end the friendship. There’s no right or wrong way to lead in to this, just don’t jump in to it. Most likely, you’ll be so nervous that you’ll blurt it out anyway. I’d have this conversation in private when you feel comfortable with it.
-Alli
Dating Tips #254: Don’t think a relationship will make your life perfect
If you think that all your problems will be solved by getting a boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re wrong. This won’t fix anything. In fact, it could make it worse by adding more pressure or stress to your life. When you’re in a relationship, you’ll still have rocky times in your life. The only difference is that when you have these rough times, you have someone to lean on for support. But if you’re with the wrong person for the wrong reasons, they won’t be able to help you during these times. Just keep that in mind.
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Dating Tips #253: Learn the difference between the bad boy and the good guy*
Although dating a bad boy can be fun, it’s only fun for a short time. Once these people get what they want, they’re on to the next one. The good guys, however, will take their time getting to know you. They won’t pressure or rush the physical aspect of the relationships. They will get to know your family. They’ll stick around even if you’re not wanting to sleep with them. The good ones might not be as adventurous or crazy as the bad ones, but there’s a reason that the bad boys are still single at 40.
*this post can also be applied to bad girls and good girls
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All Women Stalk: 8 Alerting Signs He's Losing Interest
He avoids making plans
Sometimes it can take a while to pinpoint specific relationship tips. For instance, if your guy is busy and can’t spend a lot of time with you for a week or something, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s lost interest. However, if he consistently tries to avoid making any plans with you, then he might not be as interested now. Betty Confidential also says to keep an eye out for a sudden interest ingroup dates.
